I can’t wear bright colours anymore.”
A few women have said things like this to me lately.
Or…
“I couldn’t wear bold lipstick now.”
And honestly?
Every time I hear it, it makes me a little sad.
Because since when did women start believing there’s an age where they’re supposed to slowly fade into the background?
Who decided confidence had an expiry date?
Somewhere along the way, so many women were taught that getting older meant becoming smaller.
Less visible.
Less expressive.
Less bold.
Less YOU.
And I think many women don’t even realise how much they’ve slowly been shrinking themselves over the years.
Not because they want to…
but because life happens.
Confidence gets chipped away.
Bodies change.
Hormones change.
Energy changes.
And sometimes somewhere between looking after everyone else, going through menopause, stress, work, relationships, motherhood, or simply getting older…
women stop fully seeing themselves properly anymore.
And honestly?
I understand it more than people realise.
After my hysterectomy and early menopause, there were moments I didn’t feel like myself at all.
I remember looking in the mirror feeling tired, flat, drained…
like I’d somehow lost a piece of my sparkle.
Not just physically either.
Internally.
And I think that’s why I feel so passionate now about helping women reconnect with themselves again.
Because it’s never really just about the lipstick.
Or the bright colours.
Or the skincare.
It’s about confidence.
Identity.
Feeling alive in yourself again 🩷
Over the years working in beauty, I’ve realised something really important…
The women who truly glow aren’t always the women with “perfect” skin.
They’re usually the women who finally stop apologising for taking up space.
The women who wear the lipstick.
Post the photo.
Start the business.
Say the opinion.
Book the trip.
Go to the gym.
Learn the new thing.
Try again.
The women who stop waiting for permission.
And no…
confidence doesn’t magically arrive first.
Most confidence is built afterwards.
One brave little decision at a time.
Sometimes confidence looks like going live on Facebook even though your stomach flips.
Sometimes it’s wearing the bright pink jumper you love instead of automatically choosing black again.
Sometimes it’s finally investing in yourself after years of putting yourself last.
And sometimes…
it really is just the lipstick 💄
But maybe the lipstick represents something deeper.
Maybe it’s the part of you that’s been waiting to come back.
Because midlife should not be the chapter where women disappear.
It should be the chapter where women finally come home to themselves again
I think so many women are exhausted from trying to fit into who they think they’re supposed to be.
But the truth is…
You cannot build a life that feels truly yours if you keep living by other people’s opinions.
The women we admire most are often the women who were judged first.
The women people laughed at.
The women who dared to be different anyway.
And honestly?
Maybe the people judging are simply watching someone else dare to do what they’re too afraid to try.
So if this resonates with you, here’s your little Glow Step for today
Ask yourself:
“What would I do this week if I wasn’t worried about being judged?”
Then do ONE small thing.
Wear the colour.
Buy the lipstick.
Post the photo.
Say yes to yourself.
Because confidence doesn’t appear before action…
It grows because of it 🩷
Earlier this week I shared a post about a woman people laughed at on live TV… and how she later became one of the most iconic names in fashion.
https://www.facebook.com/share/v/18veegaB9p
And honestly?
I think that’s such a reminder for all of us.
Don’t shrink yourself just because other people feel uncomfortable with boldness, confidence, ambition, or difference.
You do not need to fade with age.
You do not need to become smaller.
And you are absolutely not “too old” to shine.
You don’t need fixing.
You need support, science, self-trust — and permission to stop shrinking yourself to fit other people’s comfort zones.
Your Glow Getter 🩷 Hx
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